Your wedding day is one of the most significant days of your life but in fact, many people also experience pre-wedding induced stress and anxiety a.k.a pre-wedding depression.
This can be due to the often overwhelming and enormous task of planning, especially if you don’t have a wedding coordinator and if you are having to oversee friends and family who are helping. From worrying about the costs associated with the ceremony, reception, and honeymoon, to seating charts, music, and choosing the wedding party, all of these things can pile up to become more of a burden than a blessing. Uncertainty about the relationship may rear its ugly head with questions causing serious feelings of anxiety and depression, such as: How will life be after the wedding? What if this was the wrong choice of a spouse? What if I don’t measure up as a husband or wife? How will I cope with moving to a city or a new job after the wedding?
Dr. Tamara Chansky at Psychology Today describes signs of pre-wedding jitters as trouble eating, having trouble sleeping, having difficulty concentrating, becoming clumsy, being irritable or short-tempered, and feeling “on edge”. Dr. Chansky explains, “So if you are feeling that cold feet feeling—check the box of sharing those feelings with each other, gently. Don’t get spooked by the “rest of your life” idea, know that there are reasons you got this far—tell each other what they are. Remind each other why you fell in love with each other, talk about your visions for the future. Don’t get intimidated by idealizing other couples and comparing yourselves—or by looking at couples who didn’t work things out and fearing you’re like them.”
To help ease pre-wedding jitters, we have compiled a list of questions for you to slowly go through with your partner to help you have a successful wedding day journey. Here at MunaLuchi, we are rooting for you every step of the way!
Who do you trust to help you with planning if you don’t hire a wedding coordinator?
Are you giving yourself enough time to plan without rushing?
Are you both trying to make your ceremony perfect for other people instead of just trusting and resting in the fact that the day will work itself out?
Are you dreading the planning aspect or do you have reservations about your future life together?
Who is a trusted person that you can talk to about these feelings?
Have you talked to your fiance?
Have you been getting enough sleep?
Are you eating healthy meals and exercising?
Do you have a history of anxiety and depression? How have you managed these feelings before?
Are you stressed about any specific aspect of the day? Outdoor venue and possible weather conditions, food, guests, etc?
What do you need to find the courage to change?
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